Today's inaugural question comes from a near and dear friend, one of my besties actually! Since she asked it on THE day I planned to begin the post, it only made sense to let hers be #1. So, without further ado, the question is...
What makes sex, sex? Or more specifically; what physically constitutes sex in your mind?
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Carrie
8/21/2018 07:48:21 pm
Hubby and I have had this discussion many times. To me sex is the physical act of insertion of penis into vagina or anus. I don’t consider oral sex to be “sex” but I can see why others do. I don’t think that other oral or manual stimulation to be sex either. He on the other hand considers anything with the purpose of achieving orgasm with a partner, to be sex. Including oral and manual stimulation. He does not think that masterbation is sex.
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8/21/2018 07:59:07 pm
Hmmmmm! Interesting... Both of you. So why do you think vaginal and anal would be counted, but not oral penetration? And anything with the purpose of orgasm... That could be vastly different than any kind of penetration, and yet not masturbating? I like these answers, they bring up so many more questions!
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Wendy
8/21/2018 07:56:22 pm
Sex doesn’t have to simply be penetration. Any activity that brings someone to intended orgasm.
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Lucy H. Delaney
8/21/2018 08:00:34 pm
So ... Feeding off Carrie's husband's answer, would this include masturbating?
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Leah
8/21/2018 08:39:36 pm
Any penetration/touch including 1 or more private parts where body secretions are shared/exposed. Intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, masturbation of partner (self masturbation excluded). I don't consider kissing as "sex", though you can transmit some std's via, so I guess it could be up for debate. Bottom line, you shouldn't do any of it if you aren't prepared for the physical and/or the emotional consequences or outcomes... Good or bad.
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Lucy H. Delaney
8/21/2018 09:03:49 pm
Leah, good points! And again. Someone says masturbating doesn't count, why is that?
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Leah
8/22/2018 12:38:42 am
I see masturbation as self love, self care, personal enjoyment, such as reading a book, dancing, yoga...a personal choice. I see sex as a relationship between people, a declaration, a desire, a quantitative act and choice between the individuals. I don't think orgasm or intent to orgasm has anything to with sex. I can achieve it mentally without any physical touch, whether alone or via words heard or read, thoughts, etc...and NO WAY would I consider that sex just because I did.
Lucy H. Delaney
8/22/2018 10:43:19 am
Good morning Leah! Okay so I'm totally going to play the devil's advocate here and thank you so much for answering so far! This is going pretty good for the first question!... When you're talking about masturbation/self-love, you say that you can bring yourself to orgasm by what you read or see or think, so if those thoughts or visuals are sexual... Doesn't that make masturbating a sexual experience? Even if there's no other person involved? And in addition to that, if two people are masturbating together, but not touching each other would that constitute sex in your mind?
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Andrew
8/24/2018 11:54:17 am
I believe any contact of the genitals with another person is sex. I don't believe just kissing or masturbation to be sex.
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Lucy H. Delaney
8/28/2018 10:28:50 am
Thanks Andrew! Interesting answer... So, is that genital touching with or without clothing separating the contact? And would that include boobs?
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